Sunday, March 8, 2015


Since, it's Women's Day, I've been thinking about how far we've come and how far we still have to go. I thought I'd do a little rant about something that continues to make me angry. Very angry. I know that even in 2015 there are a lot of issues women still have to deal with on a daily basis, but I'm going to focus on one that really gets on my nerves.

 As many of you all did, I watched this documentary recently about the gang rape case of Nirbhaya. The mindset of the rapists and more shockingly the lawyers who defended them blew my mind. Here are some of their quotes:

Lawyer 1

1. A female is just like a flower. It gives good looking…very softness performance, pleasant. But on the other hand, a man is like a thorn. Strong, tough enough. The flower always need protection. If you put that flower in a gutter, it is spoilt. If you put that flower in a temple, it will be worshipped. 
2. In our society we never allow our girls to come out from the house after 6:30 or 7:30 or 8:30 in the evening with any unknown person.
3. They left our Indian culture. They were under the imagination of the film culture, in which they can do anything.
4. She should not be put on the streets just like food.  The ‘lady’, on the other hand, you can say the ‘girl’ or ‘woman’, are more precious than a gem, than a diamond. It is up to you how you want to keep that diamond in your hand. If you put your diamond on the street, certainly the dog will take it out. You can’t stop it.
5. You are talking about man and woman as friends. Sorry, that does not have any place in our society. A woman means, I immediately put the sex in his eyes.
6. We have the best culture. In our culture, there is no place for a woman.

Lawyer 2
1. That girl was with some unknown boy who took her on a date.
2. If very important…very necessary... She should go outside. But she should go with their family members like uncle, father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, etc. etc. She should not go in night hours with her boyfriend.
3. Singh is shown saying: If my daughter or sister engaged in pre-marital activities and disgraced herself and allowed herself to lose face and character by doing such things, I would most certainly take this sort of sister or daughter to my farmhouse, and in front of my entire family, I would put petrol on her and set her alight.” When asked at a later point in the film if he stands by those comments, he replies that he does. 

I'm sorry what? And it's not just Indian society. Here is how a popular Mufti explains why women are valued.
You Keep Your Money Hidden Away In Wallets,Banks And Safes
You Keep It Covered Up.
Why Don't You Display It In Public If It's A Beautiful Thing ?
You Keep Your Money Hidden Because It Is So Valuable.
We Value The True Worth Of Women Far,
Far More.
Therefore, These Precious Jewels Are Not On Display To One And All. They Are Kept In Honor And Dignity

Say what? Why are you comparing us to objects and possessions? Food, really? A flower? You say we are like a diamond as if it's a compliment and we should be grateful. And I've seen even many liberal minded women in agreement with horseshit like this. Just because they use pretty words like 'flower' or 'diamond' doesn't mean it's a good thing. They are basically saying you are objects with no feelings or emotion. You're gems and money that need to be locked up in the vault. Whether you agree or not is irrelevant because possessions don't have opinions or feelings. 

Also these 'men' need to realize that they are insulting their own gender. What they are saying is that basically men have zero will-power. Men are animals and will attack and there is no stopping it or taking responsibility for their own actions. You are saying a man can't view a woman as anything but a sex object. Well I have enough amazing men in my life to know that that is wrong.

Why do women have to live in fear? Why are we taught not to get raped instead of not to rape?  We have the right to walk alone or with anyone we want and go anywhere we like at any time of the day as we see fit without our hearts thudding in fear always. It doesn't matter what a woman is wearing, she can be naked for all you want but as long as she does not invite you to do so, you have NO right to touch her. 

You can't stop rape by covering up, not going out or making women live like hermits. The only way to stop rape is BY NOT RAPING. 

So dear misogynists and women who enable them. Please stop comparing us to objects. 
 Women are human beings, not food to be eaten, not flowers to be plucked or diamonds to be stolen. We are not goods.

Happy Women's day to all the incredible women out there. 

P.S: Shout out to all the wonderful men out there who don't dismiss our history of struggle, supports us through current ones and makes way for a better future for us.

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Why it's okay to like 50 Shades of Grey

I can't remember the last time I blogged, but I always seem to get an itch whenever Valentine's Day draws near. No idea why. But in keeping up with the spirit, lets talk about all the hate the popular Fifty Shades of Grey novel is getting.

I heard of how bad it was and how nobody could read beyond a few pages. I figured it must be terrible and pretty much one of those things that are loved as much as loathed such as Twilight or Justin Bieber. (Yes, I might have just referred to him as a thing.)

So I never sought it out because life is too short for horrible books. But I was always intrigued by it's supposed BDSM theme. But then there came the day where I had to be (and still am) in a long distance relationship. So one late night I found myself reading it online. I suppose this is the girl version of a guy looking for porn when the girlfriend is not available.

Anyway, everyone was right. The book is horribly written. Cringe-worthy in fact. Many elements in it were pretty ridiculous. BUT I enjoyed the crap out of it. Not for the author's literary prowess or political correctness, which are nonexistent. I liked it because it plays on the fantasy that evidently a lot of women have. It's pretty much porn for women. Example quote from book:

“Every time you move tomorrow, I want you to be reminded that I've been here. Only me. You are mine.”

I mean...*fans self*

And as much as there are women who actually hate it, I'm certain there are some women who say they dislike it just because it's embarrassing to say they did. I outgrew that in high school. Now If I actually like something, I'm too old to pretend that I don't. :/ Also can we please stop calling it mommy porn. Hello, there are a lot of us nothing close to being mommies who enjoyed it as well.

I know the BDSM community do have a problem with how it portrays it but truth be told, there isn't much of any BDSM in the book. Just the fact that the guy was into that until he met the girl. Pretty disappointing. I do agree it's wrong to promote or sell the book using the BDSM theme to entice an audience when it clearly has nothing much to do with BDSM.

So why do I think it's okay to like it? Well because it's erotic fiction. It's fantasy. It's not a relationship guide. It's for an adult audience. Many people have fantasies that they would never want to happen or tolerate in real life. The human psyche is a strange thing. And that's okay. Don't forget that the book reached such popularity because WOMEN loved it. So what if it's not your thing? Can we take the hate down a notch?

Lots of well-meaning people think the proper thing to do is bash the book as a feminist. But This is a book written by a woman for women. Enjoyed by millions of women. In a world of porn dominated by men's fantasies, I for one am thankful there is something for us as well. That being said I realize this sentiment can truly be appreciated by people who really got off on the book. Ahem.

I have lots of stuff I dislike as well. Twilight and Justin Bieber included. But I don't go out of my way to dis everyone who reads it or listens to them. Have to admit this lesson took some time to learn. It deserves criticism but the women who enjoy them do not. It's not necessary to go to war with the book.

Don't get the wrong idea. I don't think it's a good book. Great porn maybe. But a terribly written, and outrageously silly book. But maybe it's okay to enjoy the ridiculousness of it all. And that does not in anyway make me a non-feminist. In my opinion, assuming women can't tell the difference between fictional erotica and real life is more insulting. Read it but don't read too much into it. There are bigger issues in the world.

Oh and I used Matt Bomers picture because come on? Amirite? No shade to Jamie Dornan. You're hot as well but Matt Bomer IS Christian Grey. Just look at him!

For all you ladies out there who enjoyed it, I want you to know that it's okay to like it. Don't let anyone tell you you're silly for whatever preference you have as a fantasy. Because that is all it is. A fantasy. I know I'll get a lot of flack for this post. But I immensely enjoyed reading 50 Shades of Grey. Sue me.

Laters Baby ;) xoxo

Monday, April 21, 2014

Nora & Egaz - Island in the Sun - Addu - Maldives

We had an awesome time in Addu! It's an amazingly beautiful place if you know the right places to explore and if you have a great sense of adventure. We would call it a completely unique experience that we feel so fortunate to have experienced. From the abundant havens of nature in Koattey to the secret nooks and crannies of every district from Hithadhoo to Feydhoo, it's a trip we'll never forget! We recommend it to everyone out there to come see the beauty of Addu City, the southern jewel of Maldives.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

The story of Masika from Congo.

Tonight I was watching T.V and came across a documentary on Al Jazeera. It was about a woman in the unstable country of Congo. She is a survivor of rape and violence that breeds from this continuous war in this country. A war full of unimaginable violence, mostly against women. She has set up and runs a center for other survivors who have no place else to go and has been shunned from their families. She searches for and rescues survivors and orphaned children with the help of volunteers. She provides counselling, medical treatment, basic necessities and shelter for them. She tries her best to send all the orphans to school. She helps some of them find back their own families. If their family does not accept them she helps them find a place in the community. She has adopted a number of orphans. She talked about how hard it is and how draining it is and how she wonders why she does what she does. Then it showed her with a rescued baby whom she adopted and she says that when she  is able to save babies like this she thinks it might make a difference in the world that they survived. 

After the documentary I was so moved by her that I looked her up on the internet and found a video of her telling her story. Nothing could have prepared me for what I heard. :'( Tears streamed down my face as she with great difficulty told the most unimaginably horrendous things that was done to her and her family by the militia.  How her husband was brutally slowly dismembered in front of her and how they cut his penis of and made her eat it. How she was raped over her husbands flesh 22 times that her womb was destroyed afterwards. And how she could hear her daughters being raped all the while. I have linked the video below.

This war in Congo has been going on since 1996. Yet nobody pays attention to them. Horrible things happens everywhere in this world but some are given more media attention than others. There are double standards. There are so many individual people and countries that could make a difference but even Masika's center has only been able to raise around 24000 dollars yet.  And sadly this is just one story among  more than you can imagine.

I felt so humbled after watching this and hearing her story. I felt so fortunate and lucky when I heard what this woman survived. If I had gone through the same thing as her I would have killed myself than live my life with the memories of the horrors. But not only has she survived, she is using her life to help other people who have gone through the same thing. She is for me one of the most wonderful people in the the world now. Her strength and perseverance and compassion is humbling. After seeing this video I couldn't get my head around how evil and depraved and sick (There is not a word strong enough) humans can be. But at the same time this is a story of how amazing the human spirit can be. Whenever you think you're having a bad day, think of this amazing woman and what she has gone through and done with her life. 

If you would like to read more on Masika and what she is doing or if you would like to donate to her center please visit this site.

Probably not many people would even read this post to the end. They might find it it too boring and not entertaining enough. But I was so heartbroken when I watched the documentary and this video that I just had to get her story out there. So please hav a look at the video and know her story.

P.S. : Warning: The story she relates in the video is explicit and more horrible than you can imagine. It will disturb you and you probably would have difficulty sleeping tonight. I know I will.

 Facts about the war in Congo: In 2009, people in the Congo may still be dying at a rate of an estimated 45,000 per month, and estimates of the number who have died from the long conflict range from 900,000 to 5,400,000. The death toll is due to widespread disease and famine; reports indicate that almost half of the individuals who have died are children under the age of 5.There have been frequent reports of weapon bearers killing civilians, destroying property, widespread sexual violence,causing hundreds of thousands of people to flee their homes or otherwise breaching humanitarian and human rights law. An estimated 200,000 women have been raped.

In eastern Congo, the prevalence and intensity of rape and other sexual violence is described as the worst in the world.[
The war has made the life of women more precarious. Violence against women seems to be perceived by large sectors of society to be normal. A phenomenon of 'pendulum displacement' has developed, where people hasten at night to safety. According to Yakin Ertürk, the UN Special Rapporteur on Violence against Women who toured eastern Congo in July 2007, violence against women in North and South Kivu included 'unimaginable brutality'. 'Armed groups attack local communities, loot, rape, kidnap women and children, and make them work as sexual slaves,' Ertürk said.

In December 2008 GuardianFilms of The Guardian released a film documenting the testimony of over 400 women and girls who had been abused by marauding militia.

In June 2010, UK aid group Oxfam reported a dramatic increase in the number of rapes occurring in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, while researchers from Harvard discovered that rapes committed by civilians had increased seventeenfold.

Sunday, October 7, 2012


Meet Alam. He is from Bangladesh. He is almost 30 years old. He is a husband and a father to a little girl. He works in a shop to make a living. He has a weakness for action movies and wrestling. My dad hired him and brought him over to Maldives some years ago to look after my grandfather who was very sick with old age and has passed away now.

Maldivians have always hated Bangladeshis and treated them like they are born to be our slaves. Even when they make them to the dirty and hard work that Maldivians find too humiliating to do.  -_- I was used to hearing things like, "If he is a Bangaalhi (Derogatory Maldivian term for Bangladeshis) he would be scum. They are thieving, useless perverts." In my life I have always tried not to discriminate or have generalized opinions about anyone different than me. I had always scoffed at these remarks. Surely people from Bangladesh can't be any different from any other people from anywhere else, can they? They are also human. Good and bad included.

Unfortunately after working in HR and having to deal and monitor a lot of Bangladeshis for awhile. I have to admit I was disappointed. Most of them had one or more undesirable characteristics. For instance greed, dishonesty or plain laziness. But then I tried to justify it by thinking about how they lack education and how they have to work so far from home to earn a couple of thousand bucks which can barely fulfill their need to look after their families.

But then I met Alam. He is like no Bangladeshi I've ever met. He is kind, loyal and principled. After my grandfather died, we still kept him with us as a housekeeper. He learned to cook and he always kept the house spotless. When he came he didn't know a word of dhivehi, so he just showed me his little photo album in which he kept his pictures of his wife and child.  But now he can speak quite well. He never had any access to any education but whenever he see's dad fixing anything or mom cooking anything, he would study them hard eager to learn. And he did.

Whenever I got sick, he was the one who cared for me even when I didn't ask him to. He would bring me juice and urge me to go to a doctor. Whenever dad was fixing anything he would rush over to help even when he wasn't needed. Whenever He saw mom carrying anything heavy he would insist on carrying it for her. He is a good person without having any ulterior motive. I know this because there were months when dad couldn't afford to pay his salary on time. But he NEVER complained. He never slacked off. We never had to ask him to do anything. He did it all.

He is a gem of a person. He is also quite naive and easily trusts people. I worry about that, but it's probably the reason why he is so nice. My family has a lot of affection for him now. Even my cousins jokingly call him the best nanny ever. Because he takes care of everyone. He works so hard during the week and on Fridays he goes to Friday prayer. If he manages to save any money he never spends any on himself but buys cheap toys for his daughter , because that is what he can afford.

He is very shy, timid and and hates it when his picture is taken. I get the feeling that a lot of people pick on him. Whenever he see's me go out alone, he would get alarmed and ask whether I'm going out alone. He'd tell me to ask my boyfriend to come pick me. I'd always reassure him that I'm taking a taxi. He would warn me that Male' streets are dangerous and that I shouldn't be out alone. He treated me like I was his own little sister.

Since we couldn't afford to keep him anymore, he now works for my brother in Addu. He calls occasionally to see how I am. He would ask if I'm eating right, and ask how mom and dad is and even if my bf is doing well. He keeps in touch with mom and dad too. I recently visited Addu for a couple of days and went to see him in the room he stays in behind my brothers shop. He was so happy to see me. He said I had lost weight and needed to eat more. When he found out that I was coming he actually cooked in his little room. He made some chicken for me. Just because once I had said that it was the best thing he cooks. I had eaten before and was full so felt bad that I couldn't eat it. So he went off and bought a Milo for me. He knows I love Milo.

He called me the other day. He told me that I should talk my mom and dad into saving some money and opening a small business. He may not be the smartest person in the world but he worries about us.
So you see my dear Maldivians. Not all Bangladeshis are the same. Give them a chance first. They are people too. And then you might be as lucky as I was to have made such a good friend. I am not ashamed in the least to be associated with him or seen with him. In fact I would be proud. I only wish I could be even half as good as him.

Here's to you Alam. 

Saturday, August 25, 2012


The Moon gives out her silver light
The stars respond with palest white
Water glints for sheer delight
And humans blink, 
   deprived of sight
Pulses quicken, hearts excite 
Is this thrill or is this fright?
With passion at its utmost height
The lovers feel the fire ignite
This is no place to be polite
The dark forbids gilt-edged invite
There is no time for wrong or right
As long as love does love requite
Flame blazes through the black, 
   so bright
As lovers passionately unite
Forged in heat,
   their bonds bind tight
Bound by magic,
   and enchanted night...

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

A message to people looking for pet cats...

Ever since I made the cat group in Maldives, I have noticed that most of the people who look for cats as pets have a particular preference. Most people want to buy expensive Persians rather than adopt a local cat. If your dream has always been to own a cat that looks like a living stuffed animal, then nothing will stop you from making a long-haired cat the first choice. While there is nothing wrong with that and as beautiful as they are I want to make an appeal to you give local cats a chance.

Why? Because the truth is long-hairs are in demand. Most of them are bound to find good homes and are worth money. But if you walk the streets of Male', Villigilli or Hulhumale' you're sure to come across beautiful cats and kittens that need good homes. I myself am a real cat lover. I love them all, yes even the hairless sphinx. I don't practice 'furism'. :p

What bugs me about some people is how they buy fancy cats just to show off to people like it's some sort of a home decoration. They don't realize that Persians are high maintenance and need to be brushed thoroughly at least 3 times a week in order to prevent hairballs or matted fur. Then they quickly get bored and find it's not worth the trouble and try to sell it again.

Persians are pretty lazy cats, they usually lay around looking pretty and giving capricious looks. Most of my life I had mostly short hairs and one mix. I can assure you that they are just as cute and cuddly as any Persian could ever be if not more. They loved to play with me providing entertainment and sought out my attention all the time. It made me feel loved and needed by them. :)

I also hate the concept of buying and selling of pets. The pets we love are priceless.The first priority should be who is going to provide the best care for the animals not who is going to pay the highest. Love and cuddliness should be free. 

So while it's perfectly okay to have Persians too, please take a look around and rescue one of our own cats who need a home. There are plenty of healthy adorable kitties who need to be rescued. People who adopt instead of buying are whom I would consider to be the real cat lovers. ;)

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

A political confrontation...

People have been complaining about my political posts. Usually these are the people who always proclaim that "politix sux or politics is lame". Believe me I'm not sharing these posts because I want to. I'm the kind of person who'd rather gaze at stars than soil myself with foolish matters of the earth. I find politics and politicians dirty and annoying as the next person. But people really need to understand that in some situations its not about whether politics is cool or not. You can't avoid politics. You just can't no matter how hard you try. Even if you don't want anything to do with them, you have to see what they are up to because every little decision they make affects each and every one of us. Some people have labeled me a fanatic for my views and what I've got to say to that is if I'm the sort of person that gets outraged to see people beaten up and injured on the streets for merely standing up for their rights then I guess that is what I am. Yes I know brutality is brutality no matter who does it and I wholeheartedly agree. It's just more reprehensible and scary when people in uniform who have taken oaths do it. I mean, who do you turn to, when the people who are supposed to be protecting you from brutality are the ones being brutal in the first place?And the people who call me biased needs to get one thing straight. I think for myself. I am not a weak gullible woman who is being 'used' by anyone. I stand up for what I believe is the right thing to do according to my code of ethics and morality. And the people who are calling me biased is anything but impartial. They go on poking jokes aimed at one side while conveniently ignoring the tyranny and brutality happening all around them. Then they call for peace. And then call me biased. -.- I will continue to stand against this madness until it's put right and if you have a problem with my views on Facebook, well there is such a thing as the unfriend button. And seriously, if you are a coup denier I really can't have a conversation with you because I can't think of anything to say to someone who chooses to stay in denial even with damning evidence popping up everywhere. So this is my rant, for justice, liberty and equality!  Meanwhile here is an interesting conversation.

Person A: You yellow people make me sick.

Person B : Er I'm not yellow, whatever that means. I'm not an MDP member and I don't plan to be one but yes it is the only party I find myself supporting in situations like these.

Person A: That is being yellow. Why do you support these thugs?

Person B: Well it's not just about them being the lesser of all the evils. It's just that I felt safe during Anni's presidency. I didn't feel like anyone could drag me out of my house arresting me for god knows what and then torture me for no good reason. I felt like I could freely talk about my views without being prosecuted. And even at times that it seemed to me like an injustice has been committed, I felt like I could talk to my president about it. He is always seen on the road on foot. How hard can it be to have a word with him? And most importantly I felt like even if I did voice any grievances I had about the law to him, I had utmost confidence that he would take time to listen to his citizen with due concern. (And I have this confidence without even having met him yet.)

Person A: Safe? You think people are safe? What about the unlawful arrest of Ablo Ghazee? You call that being safe when an important judge is arrested against the law??

Person B: I'm no lawyer so I can't say whether his arrest was unlawful or lawful. Maybe it was against the law since I heard that the only way to find any evidence of his wrong doings was to arrest him. The thing is, most people are aware of the fact that he is a corrupt judge appointed by Maumoon for life who has been sentencing innocent people as guilty and guilty people as innocent according to their political stance for a long time. So I'm sorry if I refuse to believe that the arrest of a corrupted and an alleged pedophile judge is reason enough to oust a democratically elected government.

Person A: Just because Anni is against Maumoon it doesn't mean he can arrest everyone that Maumoon appointed. This is personal vengeance! Just like the vengeance Anni is seeking from Maumoon for jailing his uncle who funded the 1988 coup where Maldivians died! Anni is a power hungry dictator and he part of the group who brought a real coup to Maldives back then.

Person B: I, the same as you, find the instances of the 1988 coup abhorrent. But at the same time I also believe that Anni is not his uncle. As far as I know he condones with vehemence what happened back then as he should. And seriously are we still judging people by their family members? Isn't that a bit 19th century? It is the same as equating the son of a rapist with him or judging a family because it includes a drug addict. He became the president through clean means by the vote of the people. I'm not going to judge him for something he had nothing to do with.

Person A: Anni would be loyal to his uncle because blood is thicker than water! You MDP people are a cult! You're whining for elections to get power back again. This isn't what the nation wants.

Person B: By cult I suppose you mean a great devotion to a person, idea, object and movement or a usually small group of people characterized by such devotion? Except for the fact that it is sincerely not a small group of people. Any person who has got his wits about him can see the numbers of people who went to the big protest on the 17th of February. I who have never been to a protest decided to go that day, not because I'm MDP, but because my vote and the democracy and equality of my country was raped. And on the contrary I saw many people there who before had nothing to do with politics and many people who even spoke against Anni. They weren't there because this was a yellow thing. They were there to get their rights back. For justice.

Person A: Justice my foot! Why doesn't anyone ever speak of the brutality during Annis regime? Is it only now that everyone including the international media is making a big deal about a bunch of ruffians on the road?

Person B: As far as my observations skills go, I have never seen any bloodshed or bruises or water cannons used on any civilian in a protest during Annis rule. The worst I've seen of the Ablo Ghazi protests are people being forcefully carried from one place to another. And even if there were some rogue cops then, aren't they the same honorable police who didn't follow Annis orders to control the unrest and overthrew him just for cash? Since the coup there is always a photo or video every other day surfacing of someone being injured by the cops or defense force. When Anni was in charge protesters could knock themselves out doing whatever they wanted and no TV station was shut down. No damage to any political parties property was done by the police. No nepotism by appointing family members to the government. See the difference now?

Person A: You only support Anni for personal gain. You probably have connections within his corrupted regime that you use for your advantage. Why else would you support a drunk drug-addict like him!

Person B: Well in a way yes I do support him for personal gain, but I don't have any connections. I have personally gained free healthcare and freedom of political speech and assembly. And alot of other people have gained something too because he has introduced welfare to the elderly/single mothers/disabled, the flats and the Hunaru Programme in which 8000 scholarships were open for Maldivians to be able to go study at. Not to mention giving the freedom to vote to people of 18 years. He did his job. And no that is not why I have a great respect for him. Why should I respect him for doing what we are paying him to do? The reason why I hold him in high esteem is that he and his people fought for the freedom of speech and assembly and finally it was possible. No matter what anyone says even the people who make fun of Anni are using the luxury that he brought to the people by spending numerous times in jail, even tortured twice. So any person who is even talking about politics needs to respect him for that at least. Unless they prefer the olden days that you have to live in fear of even saying something against the government in secret lest they arrest and torture you. People nitpick so much about Annis faults that they don't remember what it was like in the past. They eat shit for 30 years and then Anni comes along and gives them apples and suddenly it's not good enough and people start demanding steak. This is (was) a young democracy, you can't expect to iron out all the kinks specially since Maumoon still has so much influence.  And about the booze and weed (not everyone is going to share this opinion) but I seriously couldn't care less whether it's true or not. It is not relevant to me as long as he does his job and takes care of his people, which he did.

Person A: I don't know what your problem is now. Isn't the Vice President also someone you voted for too? Why are you people calling for his resignation?

Person B: I'm calling for his resignation because no person with any amount of integrity as a VP would want to take on power after the events of Feb 7th. Also if the VP is someone that the people vote for to choose like you say, how in the world does Dr.Waheed get to pick Wahiddeen as his VP? If Waheed had resigned with Anni then we could have gone to an election. But now even if Waheed resigns then Wahiddeen would become the president and select another VP and it would become a vicious cycle.

Person A: You are so tinged with yellow that you can't see straight. You see Anni as a god who can do no wrong. You people worship him like he is an idol!

Person B: As a matter of fact I do believe Anni has made some bad decisions too. Like him giving the extremists too much power and changing the Maldives slogan from Sunny Side of Life to Always Natural and wasting time talking trash about the opposition continuously. I also dislike Reeko Moosa being in MDP as well because he is corrupt. So you see I'm not a blind follower. I just can tell right from wrong. If anyone has been treated like a god here, it's Maumoon.

Person A: The fact still remains that these protesters and MDP followers are nothing but filthy-mouthed  animals that don't have an ounce of discipline in them!

Person B: The only thing to say to that is, you can't oust a president that the people voted for with bribed military forces who's brutalizing the people and expect people to take etiquette lessons. This is a small community. For every person the police injure, there are going to be more people who get emotionally outraged. So as much as I agree that etiquette lessons are needed, the rage is understandable. Maybe you'll only know when you see a loved one being beaten up in front of you. So have a little empathy. We are trying to pressure a military state here. It's easy to point fingers but when you rape a country, you should be prepared to accept the consequences and chaos that will follow inevitably.

Person A: Meh...

Monday, February 13, 2012

Valentines Day

Amid all this tyranny in my country, comes the day of love. I just have to say something about Valentines day. Its true that Valentine's Day is a money-making capitalistic holiday/celebration. A day where they only show mushy corny movies for 24 hours. A day which lovers take time to appreciate each other more. 

I notice a lot of people who hate Valentines day. What they say is 'why choose only one day to show the person you love that you care?'. Now this would be a very good argument if the person who was saying this is the sort of person who buys little gifts and cards and flowers often for his/her significant other on other days of the year as well. What people need to realize is that Valentines Day is just like any other holiday. Like Mothers Day or Fathers day. 

It has come to the point when the haters of this day has become more annoying than the mushiness and the PDA you get exposed to. The fact of the matter is that we all are busy with our lives and usually get caught up in the dregs of everyday life. Even the best of us forget to appreciate the people that care about us. That's why some of these holidays are created. That and the Hallmark aspect of it too. ;)

I've also observed many a time the problem arising of one person (usually the girl) wanting to celebrate Valentines Day and the other person (usually the guy) not believing in it. Look guys, I know a lot of you aren't fans of Valentines Day, but if you have a girlfriend or wife who is, that's what matters. Even if you're the sort of guys who would readily do the same any random day of the year where everyone else isn't doing the same. Do it because she likes the gesture. 

Good relationships are all about compromise. Maybe she doesn't like you monopolizing the bedroom TV at night playing Call of Duty to the wee hours. But she lets you do it because you enjoy it. Also would you want your girl/wife to be the only person among her friends to not have gotten anything? Whether its a good or bad thing the truth is there is a competitive aspect to this day. Or at least a desire to show the world that you are loved. If i is important to her and If she IS loved then you shouldn't mind showing it publicly.

How hard is it to send someone flowers or a card? Its not, hence the refusal to do so is silly. In order to accommodate a partner you shouldn't be selfish and hold the day hostage to her. Note that all of this applies to people who hate Valentines Day and is with someone who wants to celebrate it. If you both mutually don't like celebrating it or mutually love celebrating it, then it's all good. And if you're single, this day is probably not that relevant to you. (Unless this day just makes you feel lonely and depressed.)

To finish off i'd like to quote the Oatmeal  to all the people who get enraged and start ranting about how much they hate Valentines Day for whatever reasons, "If Valentines Day means so little to you, then I politely ask you to shut the hell up and treat it like any other day. Or go have a sexy adventure rumpus with someone who smells nice." ;) Less complaining! More sexy rumpus!

Happy Valentines Day!

Wednesday, February 8, 2012


At this moment I am so disgusted with the people of my country. Just when I had a glimmer of hope that things slowly were going to change around this godforsaken place they proved to me that stupidity has no bounds. 

We finally had a president (Anni) who cared about the common citizen, who had no arrogance or delusions about himself being a higher being than the rest of us. Someone who made an effort and brought results to his people despite being sandwiched between religious extremists and corrupt opposition parties. Someone who sacrificed his freedom and risked his life for a long time to make it possible for those ingrates to be able to even HAVE a voice and be able to protest in the first place. 

A president who showed the people that he was true to his principles by not moving into the presidential palace the former dick-tator had built with our money, by not using the fancy yacht formerly used by the said dick-tator, by choosing to walk around like any other person instead of having a fleet of vehicles surrounding him. These are just a few examples that shows that he is a down to earth person who is sincere about helping his people.

Sure, he may not be the best president or the most articulate at that. But I'd rather have someone who was sincere in his beliefs rather than someone who 'looks' like a president. (Whatever that is supposed to mean.) I'm not affiliated with the Maldivian Democratic Party but at this moment I do believe it is the only party that is liberal in a true sense. And being liberal is what I am all about. And of course there is going to be corruption in every party but from my observations MDP has been the lesser of all the evils.

What I don't understand is why people still worship the old fossil of an ex-president Maumoon Abdul Gayyoom. (Note that this is a person who would have thrown me to the dungeons and have his forces gang rape me if I had written something like this in his rule.) It is one thing for the families who have head close ties to him and enjoyed the benefits of that to remain loyal to him. What about the rest of the people who act like he is some sort of a pharoah or something?

Maybe the old generation doesn't know any better or has no clue about what people are entitled to. It was bound to have happened after a person has ruled over the country like a king for three decades. And maybe the younger generations are just following what their parents have been teaching them. (That he is a demi-god that can do no wrong.) They need to wake up and start thinking for themselves. This is not a joke. This is our lives we are talking about.

You might wonder why I hate him so much it it hasn't become obvious already. I personally feel (as should most of you) robbed by him of a better life I might have been enjoying by now it wasn't for his greed. The Maldives had been bringing in a good amount of revenue into the country for 30 years. This place could have been developed to a smaller version of Singapore by now if that old fart didn't have an excessive need to bath in his own riches. 

So yeah its not the fact that we didn't have freedom of expression then. If he had just taken care of his people like Lee Kuan Yew (benevolent dictator of Singapore) I wouldn't have cared if he was a dictator or even if he ruled for life. After all who would want to complain about a president who takes care of his people? Instead we got someone who had used thugs to intimidate and abuse innocent people by locking them up without a trial or shred of evidence. (I know many of them personally.)

All I know is there are a handful of very wealthy businessmen in this country. And they are the ones controlling the masses with their money. They are against anything that gives the people too much freedom because in order to stay filthy rich they need to control the masses. Why do you think the dollar shortage problem came up?

What infuriates me the most is how easily people are fooled here. How easy they are to manipulate like puppets and to be herded like sheep. And how they never seem to think for themselves. Do they seriously think the 'armed forced' just decided to overthrow the government in one day? The whole thing stinks to me. 

And the fact that one of the first things they had done was to change the TV stations name proves it was personal. This petty thirst for power is playing with our lives. While they are at it why don't they stop the free healthcare and the welfare for the elderly and single mothers too? After all it was Anni who provided them. Any projects he had or anything he has done is considered wrong now right? 

Speaking of the 'armed forces', there's this rubbish about how its a peoples revolution. Seriously? It was not a peoples revolution because the armed forced are not civilians. And they are armed (duh). This is treason. We had a real revolution in 2008 where the old fossil had to succumb to national and international pressure. There was no one pointing guns at anyone. My laundry basket has more integrity than these so called armed forces who swore an oath to protect the nation. They even totaled the MDP headquarters. Why the hell was that necessary? I'm no expert here but I'm pretty sure there was a law broken somewhere along there.    

The army has proven to us that they can be bought. Even if they did not like the current president, the people who are celebrating these events have no clue what this means. These 'soldiers' are people with pea sized brains with weapons, who do not give a rats ass about the people. Weapons that they will use whenever they feel like it or if the price is right. Let that sink in for a moment. It scares the shit out of me. What are they going to do now? Whine and overthrow the government by force whenever they think its right? At this rate there will come the day where they let go of any sense of morality that they have and open fire among the people.

Mr. President Thank you for your effort and what you have done for us. There are people who value what you saved us from and what you stood for. Maldivians, I hope you're proud of yourselves and what you've achieved. You wouldn't know a good thing if it slapped you on your sorry faces. If this country goes to the dogs you deserve exactly what you get. I see dark days ahead of us. but who knows right. Maybe one day light will shine here again. As long as we have hope. Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things..and no good thing ever dies. 

P.S. All those of you who have a problem with me expressing my opinion. BITE ME. They haven't shut down freedom of political expression. Not yet anyway.